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My friend and I have been close for a long time, but now all she can think about is guys! I feel shut out because I’m not going out with someone. It hurts me to see her so much more concerned about her outside appearance than what’s inside. I want to still be her friend, but part of me isn’t so sure. What do you suggest I do? Do I love her for who she is, or do I leave her in the dust?
What a great question! The teen years are famous for friendship trouble because it’s a time of life when girls change all the time as they...
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There is this guy that likes me, and I kind of like him back, but my mom doesn’t want me to date until I am in high school. My mom already made me tell him that I don’t like him, so he doesn’t go any further. What do I do?
If your mom has made the decision that you have to wait until high school to date, then the absolute best thing you can do is honor her decision....
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There's this guy at my school that I like and he likes me, but I feel like the only thing he likes me for is my body. Whenever I am around him he is very touchy and it just makes me uncomfortable. The other day he subtly mentioned that he wanted sex from me and I just don't know what to do. I want to pull away from him but I don't know how. It's hard because in some sick way I like the attention, but in my heart I know that it's not genuine affection and I need to walk away from it. Do you have any advice for me?
Thank you for being honest with me, and—especially—with yourself. If you "feel like the only thing he likes [you] for is your body," you...
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I recently developed a crush on this guy I've known for 12 years—basically ever since elementary school. We text and talk to each other all the time at school, but he has a girlfriend. And some of my friends have told me that he knows that I like him, and he told them he feels bad because he thinks I'm “nice.” What should I do? High School graduation is coming up, and we're going to different colleges so I may never see him again. Should I tell him my feelings?
I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer to your question, so I can only tell you what I would do in your shoes. As tempting as it...
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I feel like I have been playing matchmaker with my friends lately. In three months, I’ve set up three of my close friends with guy friends of mine. Now all three girls are happy in their relationships, and always talk about their guys to me. I mean, it makes me feel great that they trust me and all, but now I feel like I really want a boyfriend. Problem is, I'm not allowed to even group date for another three years, and then I’m not allowed to have a boyfriend until college! I know my mom has the best in mind for me and all, but I can't help feeling jealous and like my mom is being overprotective. I've prayed about it for a long time, but I still feel the same! Can you please shine some light on my situation?
Aw, that is hard! It would be insincere to say that you should just get over it, because I know how hard it is to stay focused on God and content...
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I was in a relationship with a guy for about four months. It was a really good relationship, but recently he broke up with me because he had a lot of things going on in his life that he couldn’t balance. His parents are divorced and he doesn’t have a good relationship with his dad, so that affected him and our relationship. So I gave him space, and then after finals were over I thought he would come and talk to me about where our relationship stands, but he didn’t. I tried contacting him to ask him if we could talk so we could have closure, but he didn’t respond. So I have been moving on little by little, but it hurts. Prom is coming around, and I was thinking that if he asked me I would say yes. But my dad says that I should not go with him because I would end up getting hurt again. So my main problem is what to do for prom. I wanted to go with a group of girlfriends, but my mom says that isn’t “prom,” so I don’t know what I should do. Not go to prom, or go to prom with friends and see my ex with another girl. I don’t know what I should do! I have prayed about it, but I am impatient.
I’m going to be as honest as I can, because you deserve it! I hope I don’t come across as harsh at all, because that’s not my...
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I totally love this boy. My friend says he has a crush on me. He tries to get my attention and stares at me. I wrote him a note, and he showed his whole class. I am girly, though, and all his ex girlfriends are tomboys. Does he like me? He doesn’t talk to me.
Judging by the way he acts around you, I think it’s pretty safe to assume he likes you. He probably doesn’t talk to you because...
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I’ve been friends with this guy, T, for a while, but all of a sudden he broke up with his girlfriend and has been texting me like 24/7. My friends say that he likes me, but the problem is that I like someone else. I don’t want to hurt T and ruin our friendship, but I don’t feel like he gives me enough respect compared to the guy I like. The guy I like is really nice and goes to my church. I just feel like we have a connection! I don’t know what to do! Can you help me sis?
I think your friends may be right. T might be interested in you. But that shouldn’t make you feel bad! Yes, he may get his feelings hurt if he...
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I have a best guy friend, and we tell each other everything. But lately he hasn’t called or answered my calls, and I found out that he has a girlfriend. She’s not a Christian, and I’m worried. I want to talk to him, but it doesn’t seem like he wants to talk to me now. I feel sad that he has a girlfriend; does that mean I have feelings for him? There’s also another guy that I did like for a while. He used to text me a lot and doesn’t anymore, and I feel sad that he doesn’t. Does that mean I still have feelings for him? I thought I was over him, but I have this part of me that still wants to like him. AGH!
Let me see if I can simplify, without over-simplifying the situation.
Yes, and yes.
I think there’s probably a small part of you that has...
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Guys never seem to notice me, and I keep thinking that there is something wrong with me. All my friends keep talking about who likes them and blah-blah-blah. People say that I’m really pretty. Well, I would believe them if guys noticed me! People keep saying, “Your time will come,” or “I don’t know why guys don’t like you.” And they say nothing is wrong with me. Well then why haven’t I ever been asked out in my entire life? I mean, it’s not like I want guys following me around or anything, but I wonder why I always seem to be overlooked. I really want to get over this and enjoy my life, because I become depressed about this. I don’t feel worthy or even pretty anymore.
I think I better start by addressing a very common misconception—a lie that Satan would really, really like you to believe. (I’ll explain...
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My boyfriend and I broke up after a little over a year because he was going to college and we didn’t want to have a long distance relationship. Plus, I needed to make sure I was on track with God. The problem is that now he is at college with my old best friend, who liked him while we were dating, and now they are together! I gave it up to God, and I emailed him to get closure, but for some reason it still hurts. It makes me sick to my stomach. I just feel so replaced. What do I do?
Heartache is (unfortunately) part of the ups and downs of dating. If you have truly given your disappointment, pain, jealousy, and hopes for the...
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My boyfriend of eight months just broke up with me. He said that God wants all his focus on Him right now, and wants him to get rid of his hobbies and other distractions. Just last week he told me he was questioning this relationship because I'm away at school, but he prayed and said God asked him, “Who are you to deny the blessings I give you?” If God told him that last week, then why does He want him to leave me all of a sudden? It's not like this happens a lot between us. We have an amazing relationship—we’ve even talked about marriage—but I'm across the country at school. What do I do? I’m so confused and I miss him so much already!
I know that no matter what I say, it's not going to make the hurt go away. I wish it could. But the truth is, regardless of your boyfriend's...
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One of my closest friends is struggling with being single (she’s 18). She’s mad that she has been single her whole life. She wants a boyfriend so bad, I’m worried about her! Jessie, I’m single (and 16), and I am GLAD I’m single! I know God made her with this desire to be loved by a guy, and I know there’s a guy out there that God has just for her. But sometimes it get so tiring, hearing her complain about not having a boyfriend. She always dresses to get attention from guys, sometimes even if it means being immodest.
I think you should be the one writing the advice! Your maturity is so refreshing, sis. It’s rare to talk to a girl who actually appreciates the...
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I’m having some confused feelings about one of my best friends, T. I’ve developed a crush on him, and I’ve tried really hard not to like him for fear that it might make our friendship complicated, but I can’t help liking him. Sometimes he sends off signals that say “I like you,” and others that say “You’re my friend.” What should I do? Do I wait for him to tell me that he likes me too? Keep in mind, he’s shy.
I can so, so, sooo relate to those feelings! I wish it weren’t the way of things, but 99.999999 percent of the time, when a guy and girl are...
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I met a guy this past summer at Hume Lake. I don’t think I have ever met a boy so into his relationship with God, who is on the same level that I am spiritually. We have been getting to know each other, and more and more I feel like this is all a dream. But then again, I’m not sure if God totally had us met on purpose. I have so much faith and I’ve been praying about this everyday. Is it possible that God put this someone—with so much of my and God’s standards—into my life right now on purpose?
I remember how refreshing it would be to meet a guy in high school or even college who actually loved God as much as I did. Unfortunately, it can be...
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I really want to live a life of purity and modesty, and I know that God will bring the right guy my way at the right time. In the meantime, I’ve decided not to date, but I’m afraid that my friends will make fun of me for it. I don’t know how to explain it to my friends if they ask. Part of me doesn’t really care about what they have to say, but then I know that it will hurt me when the time comes. Any advice?
You're right: some people won't get why you would choose to live your life the way you feel God is leading you to live it. And yeah, their response...
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Lately I've been getting influenced specifically on pre-marital sex. Nearly every former youth group attendee at my church, and even my best friends who are Christian, are having sex, taking it lightly, and saying it’s no big deal. Is it still even possible to wait? And what do I tell my friends and myself when they say it’s no big deal? I know in my heart that I don’t want to go in the direction where they have all headed, but if I am being honest with myself, if I am influenced now and I am just a high school grad, I don’t know how I will handle myself with more freedom and options in college.
I can see you already know the truth, sis. You just need some encouragement to keep up the fight to stay pure! Well, you've come to the right place....
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I’ve never had a boyfriend. I'm afraid I'll never get married, but my mom says she prays over my future husband whenever she feels led to. Does God have a husband picked out for me?
If I could answer that question for you, I'd have a lucrative career in fortune telling!
No doubt about it: not knowing is hard, and I think just...
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My first relationship was really bad; I was cheated on more than once. I keep hearing things like, "98% of male teenagers are cheats and liars," so I want nothing to do with relationships now. I'm fine with it, except I'm really negitive toward relationships and I'm really picky about what I want. I know I should be somewhat picky, but I think it's to the point that I might not even give the person a chance. What do you think?
I'm really sorry that you had to go through such a bad relationship (especially your first one!). It's no wonder you're hurt and afraid of being...
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Last weekend at winter camp, God showed my boyfriend and me that we're not supposed to be in a relationship right now. There were things in the relationship that just weren't good. So after three months together we broke things off. I know we did what God wanted us to do, so why does it still hurt so bad?
First, I'm so glad you've chosen to listen to the voice of God even though it hurts like crazy! Too many girls push His voice aside and pretend they...
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